How would you like to find yourself out in the ocean in the middle of high seas and 30-40mph winds? Or caught in the surf in massive 20' bone-crushing waves? Falling from an airplane, plunging toward the ground at 120mph? Being driven into a concrete barricade while driving at high speed in bumper to bumper traffic? Falling off a bridge, hurtling toward the rocks below? Alone in the woods, with no cell phone, roads or markers to guide you? Inside a sunken ship, more than 100' under water?
For many people, these images conjure up feelings of great fear or even terror. The thought of being overpowered by circumstances beyond our control is unsettling at best for most of us. And if these descriptions were all there was, there would be ample reason for fear and worry. But others can look at the same scenarios and see something totally different. Respectively, some would see great weather for windsurfing, or big wave surfing, or skydiving, or auto racing, bungee jumping, hiking or SCUBA diving. In their most extremes, these activities can indeed scare the participant, but upon a successful completion, fill him or her with extreme enthusiasm and excitement. Having done some of these activities (windsurfing, skydiving and SCUBA diving), I can personally relate. Some of my best windsurfing rides were when the wind and seas picked up in intensity while I was out on my board and initially over-powered me. But once I adjusted and collected myself, they became some of the most exciting and thrilling rides. If you are properly prepared and trained, any of these situations can be a positive, even thrilling (albeit in retrospect) experience.
The point is this - we are all children of God, and "in all these things, we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us." (Rom 8:37) Nothing can separate us from the love of God. And nothing can separate us from the shelter of His hand. With a proper relationship with Him, knowledge of His Word, and faith (like the faith of the tandem skydiver who is dependent upon others to pack his parachute and safely fly him through the freefall and a canopy landing) even the worst of circumstances can be something in which we can find joy. Even the worst can be conquered.
Oswald Chambers, in My Utmost for His Highest, says this: "These very things - tribulation, distress, persecution, produce in us the super-joy; they are not things to fight. We are more than conquerors through Him in all these things, not in spite of them, but in the midst of them. The saint never knows the joy of the Lord in spite of tribulation, but because of it - 'I am exceedingly joyful in all our tribulation,' says Paul."
In Genesis 50:20, Joseph tells his captors that "you intended to harm me, but God intended it for good...." Paul states in Romans 8:28 that "all in all things God works for the good of those who love Him...." And perhaps one of my favorite verses is when Moses tells Joshua, "Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; He will never leave you nor forsake you." (Deut 31:6)
Our Lord has made available to us that which we need to persevere through our trials. The only question is will we take advantage of it? Will we flounder in the seas, or sail atop them? Will we ride the wave, or be crushed by it? I think - and I hope - you get the point. And I'll tell you this from experience - few things match that white-knuckled ride into shore being driven forward by the same wind and waves that once drove you downward and the knowledge that the challenge with which you were presented was conquered.
Monday, March 7, 2011
Thursday, March 3, 2011
Double Standards
I often ask my children (6 & 8 years old) when they're pitching a fit, complaining or crying about something, if they're doing it the hard way or the easy way. My point being we often wind up doing things the hard way simply because it's our way. Unfortunately, I think I see that in myself all too often. I question God often, and I don't think it's a bad thing, because I try to listen for an answer and not just vent.
Today, I was bemoaning the lousy day I felt I had and asking God why my day was so bad. Reflecting back on some particular lapses in judgment (sins) recently, I thought "I guess that this is your justice." Then, for some reason, I realized that while I pray for justice for others, like my ex-wife, I don't pray for justice for myself. And, conversely, while I pray for mercy for myself, I don't pray for mercy for select others.
I reluctantly came to the conclusion that if I'm going to pray for mercy for myself, that I ought to pray for mercy for others - no matter who or why or how hard I think it is. To be honest, I didn't really like that realization. I still don't like it. But I believe that this is what God told me to do. And, I realized as well, that I've been doing things the hard way by trying to do things my way.
Biblically, there is a good foundation for this reasoning, and a very simple one as well - and most of us are aware of it since it comes from the Lord's Prayer. "Forgive us our sins, as we forgive those who sin against us." (Luke 11:4) That's a tall order. Basically, I am to ask God for His forgiveness, only to the degree to which I forgive others. I don't like that. I'd rather there be a relative scale, but there isn't. It's very cut and dry - forgive us our sins as we forgive those who sin against us.
Another applicable reference is found in Matthew 18, with the parable of the unmerciful servant. In short, the parable is about a ruler who forgave the massive debts of one of his subjects. That subject, however, also had someone indebted to him. When the one who owed the subject the debt asked for mercy for what was a mere fraction of what the subject owed the ruler (and that the ruler had just forgiven), the subject refused and had him thrown in jail. When the ruler learned of this he had his subject called in, berated him, and had him thrown in jail and tortured (more than the subject had done to his debtor, which was only jail - the ruler had his subject jailed AND tortured) - because he didn't respond with the mercy that he had been shown. I've heard that story dozens of times, but not until tonight did I really realize the gravity of it and how common such double standards are - even, unfortunately, in my own life. The last sentence of that story is this - "This is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother or sister from your heart." (Matt 18:35) Dang. I really didn't want to hear that.
So, my new goal, instead of just praying for my ex-wife or others against whom I harbor some grudge - justified or not - is to pray for them in the same way I pray for myself. It's not what I want to do, honestly. But it's what I believe I ought to do. And I believe that as I do it it will come more easily and I will be able to truly forgive as Christ has forgiven us. It's a tall order, but He won't ask us to do something He won't enable us to do.
My challenge to you, then, is the same and to come to the same realization of what the Lord calls us to do. It's not easy. But it's a lot easier than doing it the hard way!
Today, I was bemoaning the lousy day I felt I had and asking God why my day was so bad. Reflecting back on some particular lapses in judgment (sins) recently, I thought "I guess that this is your justice." Then, for some reason, I realized that while I pray for justice for others, like my ex-wife, I don't pray for justice for myself. And, conversely, while I pray for mercy for myself, I don't pray for mercy for select others.
I reluctantly came to the conclusion that if I'm going to pray for mercy for myself, that I ought to pray for mercy for others - no matter who or why or how hard I think it is. To be honest, I didn't really like that realization. I still don't like it. But I believe that this is what God told me to do. And, I realized as well, that I've been doing things the hard way by trying to do things my way.
Biblically, there is a good foundation for this reasoning, and a very simple one as well - and most of us are aware of it since it comes from the Lord's Prayer. "Forgive us our sins, as we forgive those who sin against us." (Luke 11:4) That's a tall order. Basically, I am to ask God for His forgiveness, only to the degree to which I forgive others. I don't like that. I'd rather there be a relative scale, but there isn't. It's very cut and dry - forgive us our sins as we forgive those who sin against us.
Another applicable reference is found in Matthew 18, with the parable of the unmerciful servant. In short, the parable is about a ruler who forgave the massive debts of one of his subjects. That subject, however, also had someone indebted to him. When the one who owed the subject the debt asked for mercy for what was a mere fraction of what the subject owed the ruler (and that the ruler had just forgiven), the subject refused and had him thrown in jail. When the ruler learned of this he had his subject called in, berated him, and had him thrown in jail and tortured (more than the subject had done to his debtor, which was only jail - the ruler had his subject jailed AND tortured) - because he didn't respond with the mercy that he had been shown. I've heard that story dozens of times, but not until tonight did I really realize the gravity of it and how common such double standards are - even, unfortunately, in my own life. The last sentence of that story is this - "This is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother or sister from your heart." (Matt 18:35) Dang. I really didn't want to hear that.
So, my new goal, instead of just praying for my ex-wife or others against whom I harbor some grudge - justified or not - is to pray for them in the same way I pray for myself. It's not what I want to do, honestly. But it's what I believe I ought to do. And I believe that as I do it it will come more easily and I will be able to truly forgive as Christ has forgiven us. It's a tall order, but He won't ask us to do something He won't enable us to do.
My challenge to you, then, is the same and to come to the same realization of what the Lord calls us to do. It's not easy. But it's a lot easier than doing it the hard way!
Sunday, February 27, 2011
You're a Christian? Says Who?
A friend of mine at church made mention this morning, during Sunday School, that the term "Christian" was given to the church of Christ, not chosen by them. Meaning, others in the community saw them, observed their behavior and attitudes, and labeled them as such. The term "Christian" has many definitions, but most that I've found and heard go back to one of two definitions - "little Christs" or "followers of Christ." My friend's point was this - would people know you're a Christian without you having to identify yourself as such? Or is it obvious?
By varying measures, between 75% and 85% of the people of the United States identify themselves as Christians. Yet society doesn't reflect this. If this were accurate things would be much different. But the key part of this statement is that people identify themselves as Christians. If others were asked to identify us - what would they say?
I've also heard it said that if you were to be arrested and charged with being a Christian, would there be enough evidence to convict you? And how long would the argument be to make that case?
Being a nice person isn't good enough. Reading the Bible isn't good enough. Going to church - even twice every Sunday and once on Wednesday - isn't enough. Teaching Sunday School isn't enough. Praying isn't enough. Memorizing verses isn't enough. The only thing that matters is this - do you have a real, personal relationship (key word - relationship) with Jesus Christ? Do you not only spend time with Him, but desire to spend time with Him, like you would a girlfriend or boyfriend in those early, exciting days of a relationship? Do you seek to please Him, not because of a list of do's or don't's, but simply because it pleases Him? Do you avoid behavior that displeases Him - not because there are rules - but because you love Him and trust what He says? Do you love Him more than your own desires?
God doesn't and will never care what you call yourself. Take a moment to read Matthew 25:31-46, the story about the Sheep and the Goats. "If you confess with your mouth, "Jesus is Lord," and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you confess and are saved." (Rom 10:9-10)
In short, the mind controlled by the Spirit will desire things of the Spirit. The mind controlled by the flesh will desire those things of the flesh. Where do your desires lie? Answer that and then you'll have a better idea of how others see you. "Those who live according to the sinful nature have their minds set on what that nature desires; but those who live in accordance with the Spirit have their minds set on what the Spirit desires." (Rom 8:5) And what are some of the desires of the flesh? Sexual impurity (Rom 1:24), homosexual relations (Rom 1:27), envy, murder, strife, deceit, malice, gossiping, slander, God-hating, insolence, arrogance, boastfulness, disobeying your parents, (Rom 1:29-30) orgies, drunkenness, debauchery, dissension, jealousy (Rom 13:13), idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, discord, jealousy, rage, selfish ambition (Gal 5:19-21), unwholesome talk (Eph 4:29), bitterness, brawling, slander (Eph 4:31), not even a HINT of sexual immorality or any kind of impurity or greed, obscenity, foolish talk or coarse joking (Eph 5:3-4) to name just a few.
We thing that because if we've got the big ones covered then we're okay: I only sleep with someone I love. I don't get drunk like I used to in college. I don't get in fights because I'm jealous. I don't say "GD" or "JC" in vain. I don't tell dirty jokes much. I don't look at hard core pornography. I don't backstab people. But this list is far more than that. It's not about degrees. It's about motives. Pleasing the flesh versus pleasing the Spirit. And it can only be done if you have the Spirit in you.
Being a Christian is not about what you call yourself on a survey. It's not about what you do and don't do. It's about your heart and the desires of your heart.
So - who is is that says you're a Christian? You? Or those around you and, most of all, God Himself?
By varying measures, between 75% and 85% of the people of the United States identify themselves as Christians. Yet society doesn't reflect this. If this were accurate things would be much different. But the key part of this statement is that people identify themselves as Christians. If others were asked to identify us - what would they say?
I've also heard it said that if you were to be arrested and charged with being a Christian, would there be enough evidence to convict you? And how long would the argument be to make that case?
Being a nice person isn't good enough. Reading the Bible isn't good enough. Going to church - even twice every Sunday and once on Wednesday - isn't enough. Teaching Sunday School isn't enough. Praying isn't enough. Memorizing verses isn't enough. The only thing that matters is this - do you have a real, personal relationship (key word - relationship) with Jesus Christ? Do you not only spend time with Him, but desire to spend time with Him, like you would a girlfriend or boyfriend in those early, exciting days of a relationship? Do you seek to please Him, not because of a list of do's or don't's, but simply because it pleases Him? Do you avoid behavior that displeases Him - not because there are rules - but because you love Him and trust what He says? Do you love Him more than your own desires?
God doesn't and will never care what you call yourself. Take a moment to read Matthew 25:31-46, the story about the Sheep and the Goats. "If you confess with your mouth, "Jesus is Lord," and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you confess and are saved." (Rom 10:9-10)
In short, the mind controlled by the Spirit will desire things of the Spirit. The mind controlled by the flesh will desire those things of the flesh. Where do your desires lie? Answer that and then you'll have a better idea of how others see you. "Those who live according to the sinful nature have their minds set on what that nature desires; but those who live in accordance with the Spirit have their minds set on what the Spirit desires." (Rom 8:5) And what are some of the desires of the flesh? Sexual impurity (Rom 1:24), homosexual relations (Rom 1:27), envy, murder, strife, deceit, malice, gossiping, slander, God-hating, insolence, arrogance, boastfulness, disobeying your parents, (Rom 1:29-30) orgies, drunkenness, debauchery, dissension, jealousy (Rom 13:13), idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, discord, jealousy, rage, selfish ambition (Gal 5:19-21), unwholesome talk (Eph 4:29), bitterness, brawling, slander (Eph 4:31), not even a HINT of sexual immorality or any kind of impurity or greed, obscenity, foolish talk or coarse joking (Eph 5:3-4) to name just a few.
We thing that because if we've got the big ones covered then we're okay: I only sleep with someone I love. I don't get drunk like I used to in college. I don't get in fights because I'm jealous. I don't say "GD" or "JC" in vain. I don't tell dirty jokes much. I don't look at hard core pornography. I don't backstab people. But this list is far more than that. It's not about degrees. It's about motives. Pleasing the flesh versus pleasing the Spirit. And it can only be done if you have the Spirit in you.
Being a Christian is not about what you call yourself on a survey. It's not about what you do and don't do. It's about your heart and the desires of your heart.
So - who is is that says you're a Christian? You? Or those around you and, most of all, God Himself?
Thursday, February 24, 2011
Homosexuality and Christianity
There are a lot of misconceptions and opinions out there about homosexuality and Christianity. Are they compatible or are they not? Everyone has an opinion - as do I. But I'm going to try to avoid opinion and stick with Scripture. Now if you don't believe in the Bible as the Word of God, then this article won't really matter much. But if you do claim to be a Christian and believe that the Bible is the inerrant and true Word of God, then I hope this gives you some insight into this often difficult subject.
First, God loves everyone. "For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God." (Rom 3:23) This applies to everyone no matter their sexual orientation. We have all sinned and we all fall short of who God wants us to be. "But God demonstrates His love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ dies for us." (Rom 5:8) You can measure love many ways and to many degrees. But I think we can all agree that to give one's life for another is the ultimate expression of the deepest love. So, yes, God loves homosexuals, heterosexuals, trans-sexuals, etc. He loves us all equally.
Second, God dislikes sin. To rid of us of sin is why He died. It was important enough for Him to give His life in order to give us a path to freedom from sin, so He does not take it lightly. He tells us to "hate what is evil; cling to what is good." (Rom 12:9) So what things, then, does God define as evil?
Well, for one, pretty much anything that doesn't glorify God could be counted as evil. Because "they knew God, they neither glorified Him as God nor gave thanks to Him, but their thinking became futile and their foolish hearts were darkened.... Therefore God gave them over in the sinful desires of their hearts to sexual impurity for the degrading of their bodies with one another.... God gave them over to shameful lusts.... Their women exchanged natural relations for unnatural ones.... the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed indecent acts with other men...." (Rom 1:21-27) People made a choice to go their own way, so God let them, and gave them over to the consequences of their decisions, just as parents sometimes, reluctantly do. This passage hits all sexual immorality - heterosexual and homosexual - one is no worse than the other. They are both unnatural and indecent based upon God's plan for us. So what else does God define as evil? "They have become filled with every kind of wickedness, evil, greed and depravity. They are full of envy, murder, strife deceit and malice. They are gossips, slanderers, God-haters, insolent, arrogant and boastful... they disobey their parents." (Rom 1:29-30) So - if you're one of those who is adamant and vocal about your opposition to homosexuality - take a look at the above characteristics. Do any of those fit you? Perhaps you're a bit arrogant in your judgment of homosexuals? Then you're no different. It's all wicked, evil, greedy (because it's what WE want to do, rather than what GOD wants us to do) and depraved.
But wait - there's more. God encourages us to "put aside the deeds of darkness and put on the armor of light. Let us behave decently.... not in orgies and drunkenness, not in sexual immorality and debauchery, not in dissension or jealousy. Rather, clothe yourselves with the Lord Jesus Christ, and do not think about how to gratify the desires of the sinful nature." (Rom 13:13-14) Homosexuality was not specifically mentioned there - but sexual immorality is. And that's a blanket statement - any sexual immorality - homo- or heterosexual. But it is specifically mentioned elsewhere. "Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither the sexually immoral nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God." (1 Cor 6:9-10) So, yes, the Bible is specific about homosexuality being wrong. But it's also specific about adultery, theft, greed, drunkenness and slander. All in the same sentence. No one sin distinguished or set apart from the other.
What, then, do we say to those who believe that homosexuals are born that way? While we may not know for certain that this IS the case, we are also not certain that this is NOT the case. So let's assume that it is something that many or all homosexuals are born with. Then what?
First, from a non-biblical perspective, there is evidence that some, for example, can be born with a predisposition to alcoholism. Does this then make alcoholism justified and excused? Or does it simply make it harder for those individuals to resist the physical urges within their bodies? Is it okay and justified because it's what we want to do - because it's what we feel compelled to do? Based upon the above verses - and many I did not mention - the Bible is clear that homosexuality (a form of sexual immorality) is a sin. So does this then excuse the sin? Not at all. The Bible addresses this as well.
So what does the Bible say about resisting natural urges, desires or predispositions? "If we have been united with Him like this in His death (if we have been saved).... we know that our old self was crucified with Him so that the body of sin might be done away with, that we should no longer be slaves to sin - because anyone who has died has been freed from sin." (Rom 6:5-7) "Therefore, do not let sin reign in your mortal body so that you obey its evil desires. Do not offer the parts of your body to sin as instruments of wickedness.... For sin shall not be your master, because you are not under law, but under grace." (Rom 6:12-14) "I put this in human terms because you are weak in your natural selves. Just as you used to offer the parts of your body in slavery to impurity and to ever-increasing wickedness, so now offer them in slavery to righteousness." (Rom 6:19-20) "Those who live according to the sinful nature have their minds set on what that nature desires; but those who live in accordance with the Spirit have their minds set on what the Spirit desires." (Rom 8:5) "Clothe yourselves with the Lord Jesus Christ, and do not think about how to gratify the desires of the sinful nature." (Rom 13:14) What all this means is simply this - just because it's a natural desire or predisposition doesn't make it right. We are all predisposed to sin. It's how we are born. If we focus on and seek to gratify our natural (sinful) desires, then we sin and "the wages of sin is death." (Rom 6:23) But by the grace given through Christ, we can be freed from those sins - whether it be homosexual sin, heterosexual sin, or any other behavior mentioned previously. "For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord." (Rom 6:23)
Based upon all of this, it is my confident and firm belief that homosexuality is not of God. It does not glorify God. It is of the sinful nature and therefore not compatible with godliness. So then what is a Christian to do with this knowledge?
"Accept one another, then, just as Christ accepted you, in order to bring praise to God." (Rom 15:7) He doesn't say to accept sin. He says to accept each other. Because we are all sinners - equally wicked in the sight of God. So what does God have to say to those who judge homosexuals? "You, therefore, have no excuse, you who pass judgment on someone else, for at whatever point you judge the other, you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same thing. Now we know that God's judgment against those who do such things is based on truth. So when you, a mere man, pass judgment on them and yet do the same thing, do you think you will escape God's judgment? Or do you show contempt for the riches of his kindness, tolerance and patience, not realizing that God's kindness leads you toward repentance?" (Rom 2:1-4)
Homosexuality is a sin. Sexual immorality is a sin. Adultery is a sin. Drunkenness is a sin. Greed is a sin. Gossiping and slander is a sin. Envy is a sin. Arrogance is a sin. Being judgmental is a sin. We are all born with it. Yet none of us are excused from it as a result. "God's kindness leads you toward repentance."
The death of Christ on the cross gives us freedom from sin. We just have to choose to accept it.
First, God loves everyone. "For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God." (Rom 3:23) This applies to everyone no matter their sexual orientation. We have all sinned and we all fall short of who God wants us to be. "But God demonstrates His love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ dies for us." (Rom 5:8) You can measure love many ways and to many degrees. But I think we can all agree that to give one's life for another is the ultimate expression of the deepest love. So, yes, God loves homosexuals, heterosexuals, trans-sexuals, etc. He loves us all equally.
Second, God dislikes sin. To rid of us of sin is why He died. It was important enough for Him to give His life in order to give us a path to freedom from sin, so He does not take it lightly. He tells us to "hate what is evil; cling to what is good." (Rom 12:9) So what things, then, does God define as evil?
Well, for one, pretty much anything that doesn't glorify God could be counted as evil. Because "they knew God, they neither glorified Him as God nor gave thanks to Him, but their thinking became futile and their foolish hearts were darkened.... Therefore God gave them over in the sinful desires of their hearts to sexual impurity for the degrading of their bodies with one another.... God gave them over to shameful lusts.... Their women exchanged natural relations for unnatural ones.... the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed indecent acts with other men...." (Rom 1:21-27) People made a choice to go their own way, so God let them, and gave them over to the consequences of their decisions, just as parents sometimes, reluctantly do. This passage hits all sexual immorality - heterosexual and homosexual - one is no worse than the other. They are both unnatural and indecent based upon God's plan for us. So what else does God define as evil? "They have become filled with every kind of wickedness, evil, greed and depravity. They are full of envy, murder, strife deceit and malice. They are gossips, slanderers, God-haters, insolent, arrogant and boastful... they disobey their parents." (Rom 1:29-30) So - if you're one of those who is adamant and vocal about your opposition to homosexuality - take a look at the above characteristics. Do any of those fit you? Perhaps you're a bit arrogant in your judgment of homosexuals? Then you're no different. It's all wicked, evil, greedy (because it's what WE want to do, rather than what GOD wants us to do) and depraved.
But wait - there's more. God encourages us to "put aside the deeds of darkness and put on the armor of light. Let us behave decently.... not in orgies and drunkenness, not in sexual immorality and debauchery, not in dissension or jealousy. Rather, clothe yourselves with the Lord Jesus Christ, and do not think about how to gratify the desires of the sinful nature." (Rom 13:13-14) Homosexuality was not specifically mentioned there - but sexual immorality is. And that's a blanket statement - any sexual immorality - homo- or heterosexual. But it is specifically mentioned elsewhere. "Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither the sexually immoral nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God." (1 Cor 6:9-10) So, yes, the Bible is specific about homosexuality being wrong. But it's also specific about adultery, theft, greed, drunkenness and slander. All in the same sentence. No one sin distinguished or set apart from the other.
What, then, do we say to those who believe that homosexuals are born that way? While we may not know for certain that this IS the case, we are also not certain that this is NOT the case. So let's assume that it is something that many or all homosexuals are born with. Then what?
First, from a non-biblical perspective, there is evidence that some, for example, can be born with a predisposition to alcoholism. Does this then make alcoholism justified and excused? Or does it simply make it harder for those individuals to resist the physical urges within their bodies? Is it okay and justified because it's what we want to do - because it's what we feel compelled to do? Based upon the above verses - and many I did not mention - the Bible is clear that homosexuality (a form of sexual immorality) is a sin. So does this then excuse the sin? Not at all. The Bible addresses this as well.
So what does the Bible say about resisting natural urges, desires or predispositions? "If we have been united with Him like this in His death (if we have been saved).... we know that our old self was crucified with Him so that the body of sin might be done away with, that we should no longer be slaves to sin - because anyone who has died has been freed from sin." (Rom 6:5-7) "Therefore, do not let sin reign in your mortal body so that you obey its evil desires. Do not offer the parts of your body to sin as instruments of wickedness.... For sin shall not be your master, because you are not under law, but under grace." (Rom 6:12-14) "I put this in human terms because you are weak in your natural selves. Just as you used to offer the parts of your body in slavery to impurity and to ever-increasing wickedness, so now offer them in slavery to righteousness." (Rom 6:19-20) "Those who live according to the sinful nature have their minds set on what that nature desires; but those who live in accordance with the Spirit have their minds set on what the Spirit desires." (Rom 8:5) "Clothe yourselves with the Lord Jesus Christ, and do not think about how to gratify the desires of the sinful nature." (Rom 13:14) What all this means is simply this - just because it's a natural desire or predisposition doesn't make it right. We are all predisposed to sin. It's how we are born. If we focus on and seek to gratify our natural (sinful) desires, then we sin and "the wages of sin is death." (Rom 6:23) But by the grace given through Christ, we can be freed from those sins - whether it be homosexual sin, heterosexual sin, or any other behavior mentioned previously. "For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord." (Rom 6:23)
Based upon all of this, it is my confident and firm belief that homosexuality is not of God. It does not glorify God. It is of the sinful nature and therefore not compatible with godliness. So then what is a Christian to do with this knowledge?
"Accept one another, then, just as Christ accepted you, in order to bring praise to God." (Rom 15:7) He doesn't say to accept sin. He says to accept each other. Because we are all sinners - equally wicked in the sight of God. So what does God have to say to those who judge homosexuals? "You, therefore, have no excuse, you who pass judgment on someone else, for at whatever point you judge the other, you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same thing. Now we know that God's judgment against those who do such things is based on truth. So when you, a mere man, pass judgment on them and yet do the same thing, do you think you will escape God's judgment? Or do you show contempt for the riches of his kindness, tolerance and patience, not realizing that God's kindness leads you toward repentance?" (Rom 2:1-4)
Homosexuality is a sin. Sexual immorality is a sin. Adultery is a sin. Drunkenness is a sin. Greed is a sin. Gossiping and slander is a sin. Envy is a sin. Arrogance is a sin. Being judgmental is a sin. We are all born with it. Yet none of us are excused from it as a result. "God's kindness leads you toward repentance."
The death of Christ on the cross gives us freedom from sin. We just have to choose to accept it.
Wednesday, February 23, 2011
Heaven
A friend of mine, Nathan, died last night, Tuesday, February 22, 2011. He was in his early 40s and had a young daughter and son as well as a loving wife. From what I understand, he was at one of his daughter's ballgames when he suffered a massive heart attack and died soon thereafter. Things like this will make you start thinking about life and death, the here and the after.
Much will be said to the family at this time in an attempt to comfort them. In reality, though, no words will bring the comfort they need. Only the grace and peace of Jesus Christ can do that. I know, and everyone who knew him knows, that Nathan was not just a Christian, he was a child of God. He didn't just go to church, he had a relationship with God. And now, he is face to face with his Lord and Savior. And that same Lord will bring his family the comfort and peace they need to get through this difficult time - a time that brings focus to both the deceased and those who remain.
Nathan is now looking into the face of God Himself. He is in the presence of his Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. He is not waiting for his family, nor is he alone with his earthly family who preceded him. He is focused solely on the face of God. He is in a place where there is no time. Subsequently, there is no waiting. He and those he left behind in this world will be together in an instant. And while he is joining some of his earthly family, including his father, he is joining a larger family. In Heaven, we will truly be a family of God. We will experience the closeness we have with our physical family with every one of our spiritual family - all those who believed on the name of Jesus Christ.
He is not looking down upon us, casting his vote as to what he would have done. He's not watching any one but God. Though he loved his family dearly while on this earth, he is not missing them while in Heaven. He feels no sorrow for them because, in a world with no time, they are already there. But if he could look down upon those who remain, if he could feel sorrow for anyone, knowing Nathan it would be for those who do not know Jesus as their personal Lord and Savior. If he could avert his attention from the face of God he would hurt for those who have rejected that same Savior. He would know the joys and peace that such a relationship can bring on earth, and he would know the glory of Heaven, and he would want all people - especially those he knew on this earth - to know that same joy, that same peace, and that same glory.
For those left behind, the sorrow is not for their father, husband, teacher, or friend. It is for themselves who now find that they are without the person they love. Many things may bring them peace at various times - songs, books, words of encouragement, experiences, sermons, friendships, etc. But only one thing brings true and lasting peace, and that is a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. They will have to lean upon Him as they never have before, and as a result, they will find themselves growing closer to God than ever before. They will despair. They will question. They will experience negative emotions despite their best efforts. And there is nothing wrong with that. With questions come answers. And with despair comes repair. And with the negative comes the positive.
Nathan will be missed. But Nathan left behind far more than possessions. He ministered and was a spiritual leader to his family. He ministered and was a leader in his church. He ministered and led by example as a teacher and band leader at school. He ministered to those he didn't know as a participant in Builders for Christ. He left behind a legacy that all men hope to leave, but one that cannot be achieved by making it your goal. Nathan's goal was to please and honor God, not to pad his resume and have a lot of friends.
Nathan is in Heaven - face to face with God Almighty, Creator of Heaven and earth. And because of his obedience and leadership, he is already with his family and loved ones, though they will have to wait through their time on earth to experience that. I guess my point is this - live the life God wants you to lead. For us men, that means being the spiritual leader of our families and in our church. It means being a witness and example in our community. It means living our lives, loving our family, and doing our job as God has instructed us to do in His Word. Then we can truly say and understand that "for me to live is Christ, and to die is gain."
Much will be said to the family at this time in an attempt to comfort them. In reality, though, no words will bring the comfort they need. Only the grace and peace of Jesus Christ can do that. I know, and everyone who knew him knows, that Nathan was not just a Christian, he was a child of God. He didn't just go to church, he had a relationship with God. And now, he is face to face with his Lord and Savior. And that same Lord will bring his family the comfort and peace they need to get through this difficult time - a time that brings focus to both the deceased and those who remain.
Nathan is now looking into the face of God Himself. He is in the presence of his Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. He is not waiting for his family, nor is he alone with his earthly family who preceded him. He is focused solely on the face of God. He is in a place where there is no time. Subsequently, there is no waiting. He and those he left behind in this world will be together in an instant. And while he is joining some of his earthly family, including his father, he is joining a larger family. In Heaven, we will truly be a family of God. We will experience the closeness we have with our physical family with every one of our spiritual family - all those who believed on the name of Jesus Christ.
He is not looking down upon us, casting his vote as to what he would have done. He's not watching any one but God. Though he loved his family dearly while on this earth, he is not missing them while in Heaven. He feels no sorrow for them because, in a world with no time, they are already there. But if he could look down upon those who remain, if he could feel sorrow for anyone, knowing Nathan it would be for those who do not know Jesus as their personal Lord and Savior. If he could avert his attention from the face of God he would hurt for those who have rejected that same Savior. He would know the joys and peace that such a relationship can bring on earth, and he would know the glory of Heaven, and he would want all people - especially those he knew on this earth - to know that same joy, that same peace, and that same glory.
For those left behind, the sorrow is not for their father, husband, teacher, or friend. It is for themselves who now find that they are without the person they love. Many things may bring them peace at various times - songs, books, words of encouragement, experiences, sermons, friendships, etc. But only one thing brings true and lasting peace, and that is a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. They will have to lean upon Him as they never have before, and as a result, they will find themselves growing closer to God than ever before. They will despair. They will question. They will experience negative emotions despite their best efforts. And there is nothing wrong with that. With questions come answers. And with despair comes repair. And with the negative comes the positive.
Nathan will be missed. But Nathan left behind far more than possessions. He ministered and was a spiritual leader to his family. He ministered and was a leader in his church. He ministered and led by example as a teacher and band leader at school. He ministered to those he didn't know as a participant in Builders for Christ. He left behind a legacy that all men hope to leave, but one that cannot be achieved by making it your goal. Nathan's goal was to please and honor God, not to pad his resume and have a lot of friends.
Nathan is in Heaven - face to face with God Almighty, Creator of Heaven and earth. And because of his obedience and leadership, he is already with his family and loved ones, though they will have to wait through their time on earth to experience that. I guess my point is this - live the life God wants you to lead. For us men, that means being the spiritual leader of our families and in our church. It means being a witness and example in our community. It means living our lives, loving our family, and doing our job as God has instructed us to do in His Word. Then we can truly say and understand that "for me to live is Christ, and to die is gain."
Wednesday, February 16, 2011
Last Words
Often, when I'm getting ready for bed, I find myself reflecting on the day and simply asking God for help and deliverance. Tonight, in particular, I found myself praying simply, "Please, God, help me... Please, God, help me...." In the midst of this I thought how nice it would be to be able to thank God for things that had happened this day rather than asking for help and deliverance from trying situations.
Then it hit me - why can't I? Why can't I go ahead and be thankful for things? So I spent the next several minutes thanking God for things both significant and seemingly insignificant. They weren't "big" things - but they were things for which I truly am and should be grateful.
I then sat down to bed and opened my Bible for my evening time in the Word, where I began to read 2 Thessalonians. The first main paragraph (1:3) began "We ought always to thank God...." There was more that followed, obviously, but there it was, and again in 2:13. In fact, it's all throughout Paul's letters. Give thanks.
So while I still have many things for which I still ask God's help and deliverance, I am careful to be deliberate and surround those requests with prayers of thanksgiving. It's no magic bullet, but it makes a big difference and it's what we are repeatedly exhorted to do. It reminds me that while life is hard, God is good - all the time.
Tuesday, February 15, 2011
Give and Get
Nothing happens to us that can't be used for God's glory. And there's nothing we have that can't be used for God's glory. I realized this recently in a profound and personal way.
Back in 2008, when I was still fresh from my divorce (separation, at the time), I participated in an "Experiencing God" study at my church. We were blessed to have a variety of people who were in a variety of stages in their lives and spiritual walks.
In the midst of an ongoing and frequently contentious divorce, I shared my attitude and perspective and how God was working with me. I have often been told how much people respected and admired my desire to be a godly ex-husband and my reluctance to malign or express hatred toward my ex-wife. It's not my first instinct. My first instinct is human - to lash out in anger, hatred and to slander and malign her every chance I get. Thankfully, the Spirit of God, and the prayers and influences of Godly people, have enabled me to have a Godly perspective most of the time. It's not to say that I don't have my moments. But all in all, God has enabled me to have a perspective that is more in line with how he wants me to respond - not what the world, TV shows, movies, comedians, friends, etc say is normal. Simply put - God worked in my life to give me a perspective and attitude that honors Him. And as a result, it has encouraged and motivated others. I take no credit. It's not of my own doing. It goes against all the instincts of my sinful nature. But thankfully, God has conquered sin and subsequently gives me the opportunity to cast those sinful instincts aside.
On the flip side, however, not everyone is going through hard times in which God can shine through. After all - the light shines brightest when it's darkest. A bright light doesn't really stand out on a sunny day. So how then can we use the light we've been given to bring honor to God? A friend from that same "Experiencing God" class has shown me. In short, God has been good to him. Not to say that his life is all roses and wine - I don't know. But his life is more stable at this time than is mine - he and his wife remain married, he sees his children every day, and he has a good job. He also has a private plane.
My children now live in south Georgia with their mother. This necessitates a five hour drive for them when they come to my house and then go back to their mother's house. When coming to my house they usually don't get to bed until after 11pm, though they do sleep some in the car. It's also a lot of driving for me. And I have to pass through Atlanta. On a recent trip I made mention on my Facebook page that I hated "driving" through Atlanta - especially since it's always around the rush hour time. I do not do well with traffic. I want to see my kids - not dozens of pairs of glowing red brake lights lined up in front of me. My friend saw this post and offered to fly me down and us back for our next visit.
He didn't have to make use of his aircraft and his time. But he chose to use the things God has blessed him with to the benefit of someone whose blessings are often seen through adversity rather than plenty.
The moral of the story is this - God gives us what we have, whether seen as good or bad, for us to use to glorify Him. Thankfully, God has enabled me to use my struggles to bring glory to Him. And again, this of not of my own doing, but completely through His grace. And now someone else is using their blessings to assist another.
God calls us to be a light in the darkness. If you're going through bad times and don't use them to benefit others - either by letting them learn from your lessons or showing them how God has blessed you through them - then those difficulties are wasted. If you're feeling comfortable and blessed and don't use those blessings to benefit others - then those blessings are wasted as well. Whatever you have - or don't have - troubles or blessings - let God use them to bring glory to Him and bring blessings to others. It's a great thing for all of us to experience!
Back in 2008, when I was still fresh from my divorce (separation, at the time), I participated in an "Experiencing God" study at my church. We were blessed to have a variety of people who were in a variety of stages in their lives and spiritual walks.
In the midst of an ongoing and frequently contentious divorce, I shared my attitude and perspective and how God was working with me. I have often been told how much people respected and admired my desire to be a godly ex-husband and my reluctance to malign or express hatred toward my ex-wife. It's not my first instinct. My first instinct is human - to lash out in anger, hatred and to slander and malign her every chance I get. Thankfully, the Spirit of God, and the prayers and influences of Godly people, have enabled me to have a Godly perspective most of the time. It's not to say that I don't have my moments. But all in all, God has enabled me to have a perspective that is more in line with how he wants me to respond - not what the world, TV shows, movies, comedians, friends, etc say is normal. Simply put - God worked in my life to give me a perspective and attitude that honors Him. And as a result, it has encouraged and motivated others. I take no credit. It's not of my own doing. It goes against all the instincts of my sinful nature. But thankfully, God has conquered sin and subsequently gives me the opportunity to cast those sinful instincts aside.
On the flip side, however, not everyone is going through hard times in which God can shine through. After all - the light shines brightest when it's darkest. A bright light doesn't really stand out on a sunny day. So how then can we use the light we've been given to bring honor to God? A friend from that same "Experiencing God" class has shown me. In short, God has been good to him. Not to say that his life is all roses and wine - I don't know. But his life is more stable at this time than is mine - he and his wife remain married, he sees his children every day, and he has a good job. He also has a private plane.
My children now live in south Georgia with their mother. This necessitates a five hour drive for them when they come to my house and then go back to their mother's house. When coming to my house they usually don't get to bed until after 11pm, though they do sleep some in the car. It's also a lot of driving for me. And I have to pass through Atlanta. On a recent trip I made mention on my Facebook page that I hated "driving" through Atlanta - especially since it's always around the rush hour time. I do not do well with traffic. I want to see my kids - not dozens of pairs of glowing red brake lights lined up in front of me. My friend saw this post and offered to fly me down and us back for our next visit.
He didn't have to make use of his aircraft and his time. But he chose to use the things God has blessed him with to the benefit of someone whose blessings are often seen through adversity rather than plenty.
The moral of the story is this - God gives us what we have, whether seen as good or bad, for us to use to glorify Him. Thankfully, God has enabled me to use my struggles to bring glory to Him. And again, this of not of my own doing, but completely through His grace. And now someone else is using their blessings to assist another.
God calls us to be a light in the darkness. If you're going through bad times and don't use them to benefit others - either by letting them learn from your lessons or showing them how God has blessed you through them - then those difficulties are wasted. If you're feeling comfortable and blessed and don't use those blessings to benefit others - then those blessings are wasted as well. Whatever you have - or don't have - troubles or blessings - let God use them to bring glory to Him and bring blessings to others. It's a great thing for all of us to experience!
Sunday, June 21, 2009
Get Off the Beach!
"There are two kinds of people who are staying on this beach: those who are dead and those who are going to die. Now let’s get out of here!" - Col. George Taylor, 16th Infantry Regiment Commander, US Army; Normandy, France; 6 June 1944
Of the many famous quotes that came from US military men during World War 2, this is one of the more famous, having been used in the classic movie "The Longest Day." It was said at a time when the US Army's amphibious assault was being mercilessly pounded by Nazi machine gun nests, mortar and artillery. It was uttered when the Colonel came ashore and found the surviving members of his unit pinned down on the beach and afraid to make their way through the maelstrom that was Omaha Beach.
Col. Taylor's point was simple -- if you stay on the beach you will die. Nazi mortars and artillery had been zeroed in on the beach weeks, if not months, ahead so that the landing area was a virtual kill zone. Many men never even made it out of the surf before they fell. Many more perished on the beach. But many made it through, clearing the way for the continuing waves of the invasion force.
"Stay here," it could be paraphrased, "and you will die; to press on is your only chance to live." There were no plans for retreat that day. There was literally no where to hide and no where to run other than forward.
With my divorce, job situation(s), money issues, and such, there's been many times where I just want to curl up in my bed and hope it all will just go away. But, of course, it won't. I know that there are many who have, to some degree, felt the same way. I have a coworker and friend who, when his twins were born earlier this year, lost one of them at birth. Another friend and his wife are struggling with having children and not seeing any success. Yet another friend is a divorced dad whose teenage daughter refuses to speak or have anything to do with him. I could, unfortunately, go on and on with varying degrees of personal struggles with people I know.
Sometimes it can just be overwhelming. We don't see an end, and if we do, we don't see how it could be a good ending. It's hard - to say the least.
One thing that history teaches us, however, is that the most bitter and most difficult battles are often the most significant. And these battles, when won, are typically considered key turning points in the overall war. Our lives are no different.
We are in a war - a war for our lives and our souls. Our enemy has weapons that cause the greatest injury and destruction. God never said it would be easy -- in fact, He said it would be difficult. "In this world you will have trouble...." John 16:33b
And it is a war. The devil has only one goal -- our complete and total destruction, however that is measured in the individual. "The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy...." John 10:10a
But read the full context of the two verses noted above:
"I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world." John 16:33
"I am the gate; whoever enters through me will be saved. He will come in and go out, and find pasture. The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full. I am the good shepherd. The good shepherd lays down his life for the sheep." John 10:9-11
We have the victory won. It is guaranteed and there is no doubt. In fact, our Leader gave His life for us so that we could get ourselves off of "the beach." The battle is won. We just have to press on and fight. The fight may continue as we move ahead, or we may find a place of peace. But one thing we know -- if we stay on the beach we will die. Figuratively, spiritually, or maybe even physically.
Paul knew this all too well, and I will close with his words:
"And our hope for you is firm, because we know that just as you share in our sufferings, so also you share in our comfort. We do not want you to be uninformed, brothers, about the hardships we suffered in the province of Asia. We were under great pressure, far beyond our ability to endure, so that we despaired even of life. Indeed, in our hearts we felt the sentence of death. But this happened that we might not rely on ourselves but on God, who raises the dead." 1 Corinthians 1:7-9
"Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already been made perfect, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. Brothers, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus." Philippians 3:12-14
Press on, and get off the beach. Stay - and die, or get up and move forward, and live. To quote another famous commander from D-Day, General Norman Cota, an Army Ranger, "Follow me!" And when our Commander is the Creator of the Universe who has conquered sin and death, what better Leader to follow!
Nobody said the battle(s) would be easy. Quite the contrary. But we are assured that the war is already won. What peace there is in that knowledge!
Monday, June 15, 2009
Perspective
In June 1942, the United States Navy was on its heels. We had suffered the devastating defeat at Pearl Harbor, and lost the Philippines and Wake Island. Malaya and Singapore had also fallen. The US base on the island of Midway was the western-most US-held island in the Pacific. To conquer Midway would give the Japanese near total control over the Pacific.
At this crucial battle, the United States Navy faced off against a much larger navy and one swollen with the success of preceding battles. The US had 3 aircraft carriers against 6 Japanese carriers; zero battleships to match up with 7 for the Japanese; and 25 support ships against 56.
On June 4, 1942, the US Navy located the Japanese task force. One aspect of the attack called for a coordinated attack by all three US aircraft carriers -- their torpedo bombers would attack low, the dive bombers would attack high, and the fighters would defend.
Unfortunately, as often happens in war, the attack didn't go as planned. The torpedo bombers, the slowest and largest of the aircraft, attacked first - alone. Coming in low, they began their attack runs -- locking in to straight-line attacks on the Japanese ships. The Japanese gunners and fighters wreaked havoc. Of the 43 torpedo bombers that launched that day, each with a crew of two, only six survived. One squadron, Torpedo 8 from the USS Hornet, lost all 15 aircraft -- 29 men. Only one man survived. Not one torpedo struck a Japanese ship. Not one Japanese aircraft was shot down. It seemed, by all accounts, that their sacrifice had been utterly in vain.
If the story ended here, it would have been one of the worst defeats in US naval aviation history -- 37 of 43 aircraft lost. At least 74 men killed. And not one hit made, not one enemy plane downed. But this was not the end. The last of the torpedo plane attacks ended at approximately 10am. The day was far from over.
Because all three torpedo squadrons attacked at basically the same time and with no air cover, all the Japanese fighters tasked with protecting the fleet were drawn down to contend with the slow moving, low flying bombers. The Japanese fleet had broken its defensive formation in successful attempts to dodge the American torpedoes. Believing that the attacks were over, the Japanese commanders ordered all their aircraft to be brought top-side, fueled and armed for a counterattack against the US fleet.
About 30 minutes later, the US dive bombers arrived. Coming in at high altitude they found that there was little Japanese resistance -- fighters had been drawn down to contend with the torpedo planes and gunners were still scanning the horizon for more attackers. Each dive bomber identified their targets, and proceeded to loose their bombs on the Japanese carriers -- each with decks crowded with fully armed and fueled aircraft.
When the battle was all said and done, all four of the larger Japanese fleet carriers and a cruiser were destroyed. Every single Japanese aircraft (248) was ultimately lost. The Japanese lost as many aircrew in one day as their pre-war training program had turned out in a year. The US Navy lost one carrier, one destroyer, and less than 100 aircraft. It was a devastating defeat for the Japanese which has led the Battle of Midway to be called the turning point in the war in the Pacific.
In retrospect, the sacrifice of the US torpedo bombers was credited with clearing the way for the US dive bombers. And the dive bombers, as a result, were able to eliminate all four of the Japanese fleet carriers. Taken alone, the loss of the torpedo planes was a tragic waste. But seen in the bigger picture, it was key in turning the tide of the war in the Pacific.
I write of this because in my life these days, with financial, job and family issues, it sometimes seems as if nothing I'm doing is making a difference. In fact, it can seem as though I'm actually moving backwards. It's a discouraging, difficult and even painful feeling. But one thing I have to keep reminding myself is that "the day isn't over yet." I have to keep reminding myself that what may, at the moment, seem like a major defeat, could actually be paving the way for a major victory of sorts. I don't know. But my Commander, my God, does know. His is a perspective that no man could ever hope to have. And while I'm sure there are decisions I have made, things I have done, and things that my wife and I did as a couple, that were not what He ideally wanted for us -- He can still use those things to produce a greater good if I/we are open to being used by Him for His purposes.
The problem with us humans is that our world revolves around us. We want the credit, the glory and the attention. But the first thing that a new recruit learns in the military is that there is no "you". There is only the team. Each exists for the other for the greater good of the whole. This is the root of heroism -- putting the interests of others before one's self. This is what led the men of Torpedo 8 to do what they did, even as they saw their shipmates crashing into the ocean around them. God calls us to put Him first. His glory, His desires, His will, His plans -- for our good.
In short, my point, to myself and to you, is this -- don't be discouraged by "today." Today is temporary and fleeting and ultimately leads to tomorrow. And tomorrow is only influenced by our yesterdays, not determined by them. Only God determines what our tomorrow will be. We must focus our eyes not upon today, or yesterday, or what we think tomorrow will be, but upon Him and only Him. What seem to be our worst defeats may lead to our greatest triumphs. Our greatest mistakes can lead to our greatest successes. The God who formed a living man from simple dirt is not limited by our mortal perspective. And if we are bold enough to put our faith in Him and in His plans, neither is our future limited or for naught.
Perspective -- whose will you follow? That of mortal and time-constrained man? Or that of Eternal and Almighty God?
"'For I know the plans I have for you,' declares the LORD, 'plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.'" Jeremiah 29:11
"'For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,' declares the LORD. 'As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.'" Isaiah 55:8-9
"Consider what God has done: Who can straighten what he has made crooked? When times are good, be happy; but when times are bad, consider: God has made the one as well as the other." Ecclesiastes 7:13-14
"The LORD himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged." Deuteronomy 31:8
Job 38 -- The Lord speaks to Job
At this crucial battle, the United States Navy faced off against a much larger navy and one swollen with the success of preceding battles. The US had 3 aircraft carriers against 6 Japanese carriers; zero battleships to match up with 7 for the Japanese; and 25 support ships against 56.
On June 4, 1942, the US Navy located the Japanese task force. One aspect of the attack called for a coordinated attack by all three US aircraft carriers -- their torpedo bombers would attack low, the dive bombers would attack high, and the fighters would defend.
Unfortunately, as often happens in war, the attack didn't go as planned. The torpedo bombers, the slowest and largest of the aircraft, attacked first - alone. Coming in low, they began their attack runs -- locking in to straight-line attacks on the Japanese ships. The Japanese gunners and fighters wreaked havoc. Of the 43 torpedo bombers that launched that day, each with a crew of two, only six survived. One squadron, Torpedo 8 from the USS Hornet, lost all 15 aircraft -- 29 men. Only one man survived. Not one torpedo struck a Japanese ship. Not one Japanese aircraft was shot down. It seemed, by all accounts, that their sacrifice had been utterly in vain.
If the story ended here, it would have been one of the worst defeats in US naval aviation history -- 37 of 43 aircraft lost. At least 74 men killed. And not one hit made, not one enemy plane downed. But this was not the end. The last of the torpedo plane attacks ended at approximately 10am. The day was far from over.
Because all three torpedo squadrons attacked at basically the same time and with no air cover, all the Japanese fighters tasked with protecting the fleet were drawn down to contend with the slow moving, low flying bombers. The Japanese fleet had broken its defensive formation in successful attempts to dodge the American torpedoes. Believing that the attacks were over, the Japanese commanders ordered all their aircraft to be brought top-side, fueled and armed for a counterattack against the US fleet.
About 30 minutes later, the US dive bombers arrived. Coming in at high altitude they found that there was little Japanese resistance -- fighters had been drawn down to contend with the torpedo planes and gunners were still scanning the horizon for more attackers. Each dive bomber identified their targets, and proceeded to loose their bombs on the Japanese carriers -- each with decks crowded with fully armed and fueled aircraft.
When the battle was all said and done, all four of the larger Japanese fleet carriers and a cruiser were destroyed. Every single Japanese aircraft (248) was ultimately lost. The Japanese lost as many aircrew in one day as their pre-war training program had turned out in a year. The US Navy lost one carrier, one destroyer, and less than 100 aircraft. It was a devastating defeat for the Japanese which has led the Battle of Midway to be called the turning point in the war in the Pacific.
In retrospect, the sacrifice of the US torpedo bombers was credited with clearing the way for the US dive bombers. And the dive bombers, as a result, were able to eliminate all four of the Japanese fleet carriers. Taken alone, the loss of the torpedo planes was a tragic waste. But seen in the bigger picture, it was key in turning the tide of the war in the Pacific.
I write of this because in my life these days, with financial, job and family issues, it sometimes seems as if nothing I'm doing is making a difference. In fact, it can seem as though I'm actually moving backwards. It's a discouraging, difficult and even painful feeling. But one thing I have to keep reminding myself is that "the day isn't over yet." I have to keep reminding myself that what may, at the moment, seem like a major defeat, could actually be paving the way for a major victory of sorts. I don't know. But my Commander, my God, does know. His is a perspective that no man could ever hope to have. And while I'm sure there are decisions I have made, things I have done, and things that my wife and I did as a couple, that were not what He ideally wanted for us -- He can still use those things to produce a greater good if I/we are open to being used by Him for His purposes.
The problem with us humans is that our world revolves around us. We want the credit, the glory and the attention. But the first thing that a new recruit learns in the military is that there is no "you". There is only the team. Each exists for the other for the greater good of the whole. This is the root of heroism -- putting the interests of others before one's self. This is what led the men of Torpedo 8 to do what they did, even as they saw their shipmates crashing into the ocean around them. God calls us to put Him first. His glory, His desires, His will, His plans -- for our good.
In short, my point, to myself and to you, is this -- don't be discouraged by "today." Today is temporary and fleeting and ultimately leads to tomorrow. And tomorrow is only influenced by our yesterdays, not determined by them. Only God determines what our tomorrow will be. We must focus our eyes not upon today, or yesterday, or what we think tomorrow will be, but upon Him and only Him. What seem to be our worst defeats may lead to our greatest triumphs. Our greatest mistakes can lead to our greatest successes. The God who formed a living man from simple dirt is not limited by our mortal perspective. And if we are bold enough to put our faith in Him and in His plans, neither is our future limited or for naught.
Perspective -- whose will you follow? That of mortal and time-constrained man? Or that of Eternal and Almighty God?
"'For I know the plans I have for you,' declares the LORD, 'plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.'" Jeremiah 29:11
"'For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,' declares the LORD. 'As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.'" Isaiah 55:8-9
"Consider what God has done: Who can straighten what he has made crooked? When times are good, be happy; but when times are bad, consider: God has made the one as well as the other." Ecclesiastes 7:13-14
"The LORD himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged." Deuteronomy 31:8
Job 38 -- The Lord speaks to Job
Monday, June 1, 2009
Choose Your Direction
I've learned something in my adult years and through my marriage, separation and divorce. Referring to the spiritual realm, there's only one who pleasures in divorce and strife. And there's only one that pleasures in a healthy marriage.
From my own experiences and from those of, unfortunately, numerous friends and acquaintances, the direction you will go depends upon one of two attitudes -- selfishness, or selflessness.
I'm sure there are many, many more characteristics that could be covered here. And not all of the ones under "selfishness" are necessarily bad, in and of themselves. It's when they are expressed without the reciprocal responses of selflessness. Those behaviors under the selflessness category need to be the dominant characteristics of our relationships.
This list came easy for me because I can easily see how I have been guilty of some. And for others, I show myself guilty by seeing them in my former spouse and easily being able to note them here.
Perhaps the greatest passage in the Bible regarding love is 1 Corinthians 13. How you view this chapter could be viewed in two ways -- (1) a beautiful description of love, and (2) a brutally honest description of what we as fallen men and women are. Please read below the most commonly referred to portions of this chapter (vs. 4-8), with my comments in parentheses:
Love is patient (we are impatient and intolerant)
Love is kind (we are unkind and cruel)
It does not envy (we are jealous and want what we do not have)
It does not boast, it is not proud (we are proud and full of ourselves)
It is not rude (we are insensitive)
It is not self-seeking (we are self-centered)
It is not easily angered (we cannot control our tempers)
It keeps no record of wrongs (we hold grudges and dwell on offenses)
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth (we can enjoy being mean and getting back at someone, lying and gossiping about them)
It always protects (we can cause harm and manipulate for our own ends)
Always trusts (we lie and deceive and are unreliable)
Always hopes (we have limited vision and are easily discouraged)
Always perseveres (we give up when things get difficult and demanding).
Love never fails (we let people down - both ourselves and others).
This level of love, in its fullest, is simply unattainable by human measure. It takes two people totally given over to God and to each other, with no regard for their own self. In doing this, the relationship is made perfect -- each living for the other as they live for God.
How do we know what love is? "This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers (1 John 3:16)." Jesus not only died for us, He lived for us. And lives for us still. And His love for us extended to the point of sacrificing His lif for ours. It's not likely that we'll be required to go to that length, but we must be willing to. And it begins with giving up ourselves for the one we love.
There is only one who pleasures in divorce and strife -- the devil. And only one who pleasures in a healthy marriage -- Jesus. Who is being made happy by your actions and behavior? By my actions and behaviors? Remember, love is not measured only by how we treat others, but by how we respond to how they treat us, whether it is good or bad. It's all about presenting an antithetical response to human nature. Just as Christ has done for us, and it can only be done through Him.
From my own experiences and from those of, unfortunately, numerous friends and acquaintances, the direction you will go depends upon one of two attitudes -- selfishness, or selflessness.
| Selfishness: | Selflessness: |
| Wants to change the other person. | Wants to change themselves. |
| Demands that their own needs be met. | Looks to meet the needs of their spouse. |
| Is attentive to their own feelings. | Is attentive to their spouse's feelings. |
| Pursues their own happiness. | Pursues the happiness of their spouse. |
| Sees only how the other person contributes to their life. | Sees how they can contribute to their spouse's life. |
| Sees only the deficiencies in the other person and seeks to fix them. | Sees the deficiencies in themselves and seeks to fix them. |
| Expects the other to encourage and support them. | Is intent on encouraging and supporting their spouse. |
| Always seeks an apology. | Is not afraid to offer an apology. |
| Demands to be forgiven. | Willing to forgive. |
| Wishes their spouse to join with them in their own interests. | Desires to join in their spouse's interests. |
| Loves when they feel loved. | Loves at all times, unconditionally. |
| Returns negative emotions, word and behaviors in kind. | Responds to negative emotions with love and understanding. |
I'm sure there are many, many more characteristics that could be covered here. And not all of the ones under "selfishness" are necessarily bad, in and of themselves. It's when they are expressed without the reciprocal responses of selflessness. Those behaviors under the selflessness category need to be the dominant characteristics of our relationships.
This list came easy for me because I can easily see how I have been guilty of some. And for others, I show myself guilty by seeing them in my former spouse and easily being able to note them here.
Perhaps the greatest passage in the Bible regarding love is 1 Corinthians 13. How you view this chapter could be viewed in two ways -- (1) a beautiful description of love, and (2) a brutally honest description of what we as fallen men and women are. Please read below the most commonly referred to portions of this chapter (vs. 4-8), with my comments in parentheses:
Love is patient (we are impatient and intolerant)
Love is kind (we are unkind and cruel)
It does not envy (we are jealous and want what we do not have)
It does not boast, it is not proud (we are proud and full of ourselves)
It is not rude (we are insensitive)
It is not self-seeking (we are self-centered)
It is not easily angered (we cannot control our tempers)
It keeps no record of wrongs (we hold grudges and dwell on offenses)
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth (we can enjoy being mean and getting back at someone, lying and gossiping about them)
It always protects (we can cause harm and manipulate for our own ends)
Always trusts (we lie and deceive and are unreliable)
Always hopes (we have limited vision and are easily discouraged)
Always perseveres (we give up when things get difficult and demanding).
Love never fails (we let people down - both ourselves and others).
This level of love, in its fullest, is simply unattainable by human measure. It takes two people totally given over to God and to each other, with no regard for their own self. In doing this, the relationship is made perfect -- each living for the other as they live for God.
How do we know what love is? "This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers (1 John 3:16)." Jesus not only died for us, He lived for us. And lives for us still. And His love for us extended to the point of sacrificing His lif for ours. It's not likely that we'll be required to go to that length, but we must be willing to. And it begins with giving up ourselves for the one we love.
There is only one who pleasures in divorce and strife -- the devil. And only one who pleasures in a healthy marriage -- Jesus. Who is being made happy by your actions and behavior? By my actions and behaviors? Remember, love is not measured only by how we treat others, but by how we respond to how they treat us, whether it is good or bad. It's all about presenting an antithetical response to human nature. Just as Christ has done for us, and it can only be done through Him.
Monday, May 25, 2009
A Father
I am a father.
We are not expendable or replaceable.
The father exists for his children. To separate the children from their father deeply saddens the father, but wounds and scars the children.
We are not better than the mother, nor are we lesser than the mother. Neither, however, are we equal to the mother. We are to be teammates with the mother, united in the goal of raising our children. Our roles are unique, but complimentary. Our strengths are different, just as our weaknesses are different.
I am a father.
To reduce, minimize or eliminate my role in order to meet the needs of anyone other than the children is to deny our children that innate need that only the father can meet.
My role is not negotiable, nor was it created by man or any court. It was ordained by God. It is a privilege, but it is also a responsibility. It is not a job, nor is it a right. But it is who and what I am and forever will be.
My physical presence in the day-to-day lives of my children cannot be replaced by phone calls, Emails, web cams, letters, presents or money, though those things are nice.
I am a teacher, a leader, a provider, a protector, a priest, a friend and a playmate.
For those of us who have adopted children, we fathers had an equal say in choosing our child. For those of us with birthed children, we made an equal contribution to the genetic make-up of our child.
We are not better than grandparents, uncles, aunts, or any other relatives, nor are they better than us. But we are something that none of them can ever be to our children -- we are fathers.
We are not perfect nor should it be expected of us. But we should be striving for it every day because we know that every measure of our children's health is affected by how we live our lives and how we raise our children.
We should not be punished because there are fathers who deny and neglect their responsibilities, just as the mother should not be denied for the same reason. I am not those men. I am my children's father -- I always have been and I always will be and I will never hide or run from that responsibility. Rather, I will seek it whole-heartedly all of my days.
I am a father.
I did not choose it, though I desired it. I was chosen, because God ordained it.
My children were born with a father for a reason. Fathers are necessary to create a life, and fathers are necessary to nurture and develop that life.
The role of the father is solely for the benefit of the children. To separate the children from their father will deprive the children of everything that God ordained the father to be in their lives.
I am a father and I love my children more than my own life. I thank God every day for blessing me with the honor of being their father.
I am their father. That cannot be changed.
I am their father. I am their daddy. And they are my children.
We are not expendable or replaceable.
The father exists for his children. To separate the children from their father deeply saddens the father, but wounds and scars the children.
We are not better than the mother, nor are we lesser than the mother. Neither, however, are we equal to the mother. We are to be teammates with the mother, united in the goal of raising our children. Our roles are unique, but complimentary. Our strengths are different, just as our weaknesses are different.
I am a father.
To reduce, minimize or eliminate my role in order to meet the needs of anyone other than the children is to deny our children that innate need that only the father can meet.
My role is not negotiable, nor was it created by man or any court. It was ordained by God. It is a privilege, but it is also a responsibility. It is not a job, nor is it a right. But it is who and what I am and forever will be.
My physical presence in the day-to-day lives of my children cannot be replaced by phone calls, Emails, web cams, letters, presents or money, though those things are nice.
I am a teacher, a leader, a provider, a protector, a priest, a friend and a playmate.
For those of us who have adopted children, we fathers had an equal say in choosing our child. For those of us with birthed children, we made an equal contribution to the genetic make-up of our child.
We are not better than grandparents, uncles, aunts, or any other relatives, nor are they better than us. But we are something that none of them can ever be to our children -- we are fathers.
We are not perfect nor should it be expected of us. But we should be striving for it every day because we know that every measure of our children's health is affected by how we live our lives and how we raise our children.
We should not be punished because there are fathers who deny and neglect their responsibilities, just as the mother should not be denied for the same reason. I am not those men. I am my children's father -- I always have been and I always will be and I will never hide or run from that responsibility. Rather, I will seek it whole-heartedly all of my days.
I am a father.
I did not choose it, though I desired it. I was chosen, because God ordained it.
My children were born with a father for a reason. Fathers are necessary to create a life, and fathers are necessary to nurture and develop that life.
The role of the father is solely for the benefit of the children. To separate the children from their father will deprive the children of everything that God ordained the father to be in their lives.
I am a father and I love my children more than my own life. I thank God every day for blessing me with the honor of being their father.
I am their father. That cannot be changed.
I am their father. I am their daddy. And they are my children.
Wednesday, May 13, 2009
TMI?
If you're reading this then you already know a little something about me. If not, here it is: I am divorced, and not of my choice. I love my kids. I am trying to rid myself of sinful and damaging influences that have cost me much, and I'm instead trying to fill myself with the Spirit of God. I am at risk of having my children move 700 miles away from me. My job is difficult and stressful, to say the least. I post it on my Facebook page, I'll discuss it with my closer friends at work, mention it in Sunday School and Bible Study, and I write about it in this blog.
Some might consider it "too much information." There are those who think that personal things should remain personal. I'm not one of those. In fact, I believe just the opposite. Especially for Christians. The details are not always appropriate for sharing, but the general circumstances are. I believe it's not only appropriate but necessary for us to share with one another what's going on in our lives -- particularly the difficulties, trials, and subsequent emotions. There are multiple reasons for this.
1. If we don't know, we can't pray.
There are few things that are more frustrating than hearing of a couple that is divorcing, when no one had any real knowledge that they had significant troubles. Had we been told, we could have been praying. Had we been praying, things may have been different. The situation may not have changed, but the their ability to deal with the situation from a Godly perspective, rather than a human perspective, could.
"Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective." James 5:16
2. If we don't know, we can't minister.
None of us have been through a situation that is unique. With the knowledge of what people are going through, we can minister to those needs. Those of us who have been through same or similar circumstances can relate. Our experiences our practically worthless if kept to ourselves. What are parts of the Old and New Testament but the revelation of what others went through, experienced and learned? By sharing our experiences, we can make each other stronger, in the same way that a teacher teaches and makes his or her students smarter.
3. If we don't know, we can't see God at work.
Abraham. Isaac. Joseph. Abraham. David. Paul. What do all these men have in common? They all went through great trials. They had their failures. They had their issues. They had their difficulties. And we know all about it. We read stories about them when we're young children, and we study them as adults. We see how God used them and their circumstances to further His plan and bring glory to Him. We see how they fit into the larger picture that is God's plan. Think of what we would have missed without the knowledge of the lives and experiences of these men.
You may think, "I'm no Moses, or Abraham" or whomever. And you're not. Neither am I. We are each our own person just as they each were their own person. We each have our own contributions to make to the Christian walk of others. To the lives of others. And our failures, shortcomings and struggles are a key element of who we are. It's what we learn from and grow from. And others can learn and grow from them as well. To keep our experiences to ourselves -- good or bad ones -- is to deprive others of the opportunity to see how God has worked in our lives despite or through those circumstances.
"But He said to me, 'My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.' Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me." 2 Corinthians 12:9
It is my hope in sharing my struggles and experiences with you all that you will see God at work in my life -- for I believe He is. I hope that you will draw encouragement as/when you go through similar experiences and/or emotions. I hope that you will see that my ability to get through these messes comes not from me, but from God. I hope that you will see that my hope is not in me or others, or in luck or chance, but in the sovereign God who created all things and has a perfect plan for my life and yours. And I hope you will have the courage and humility to do the same. Not so that we receive any glory or praise, but that it all fall upon God from whom all good things come.
Some might consider it "too much information." There are those who think that personal things should remain personal. I'm not one of those. In fact, I believe just the opposite. Especially for Christians. The details are not always appropriate for sharing, but the general circumstances are. I believe it's not only appropriate but necessary for us to share with one another what's going on in our lives -- particularly the difficulties, trials, and subsequent emotions. There are multiple reasons for this.
1. If we don't know, we can't pray.
There are few things that are more frustrating than hearing of a couple that is divorcing, when no one had any real knowledge that they had significant troubles. Had we been told, we could have been praying. Had we been praying, things may have been different. The situation may not have changed, but the their ability to deal with the situation from a Godly perspective, rather than a human perspective, could.
"Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective." James 5:16
2. If we don't know, we can't minister.
None of us have been through a situation that is unique. With the knowledge of what people are going through, we can minister to those needs. Those of us who have been through same or similar circumstances can relate. Our experiences our practically worthless if kept to ourselves. What are parts of the Old and New Testament but the revelation of what others went through, experienced and learned? By sharing our experiences, we can make each other stronger, in the same way that a teacher teaches and makes his or her students smarter.
3. If we don't know, we can't see God at work.
Abraham. Isaac. Joseph. Abraham. David. Paul. What do all these men have in common? They all went through great trials. They had their failures. They had their issues. They had their difficulties. And we know all about it. We read stories about them when we're young children, and we study them as adults. We see how God used them and their circumstances to further His plan and bring glory to Him. We see how they fit into the larger picture that is God's plan. Think of what we would have missed without the knowledge of the lives and experiences of these men.
You may think, "I'm no Moses, or Abraham" or whomever. And you're not. Neither am I. We are each our own person just as they each were their own person. We each have our own contributions to make to the Christian walk of others. To the lives of others. And our failures, shortcomings and struggles are a key element of who we are. It's what we learn from and grow from. And others can learn and grow from them as well. To keep our experiences to ourselves -- good or bad ones -- is to deprive others of the opportunity to see how God has worked in our lives despite or through those circumstances.
"But He said to me, 'My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.' Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me." 2 Corinthians 12:9
It is my hope in sharing my struggles and experiences with you all that you will see God at work in my life -- for I believe He is. I hope that you will draw encouragement as/when you go through similar experiences and/or emotions. I hope that you will see that my ability to get through these messes comes not from me, but from God. I hope that you will see that my hope is not in me or others, or in luck or chance, but in the sovereign God who created all things and has a perfect plan for my life and yours. And I hope you will have the courage and humility to do the same. Not so that we receive any glory or praise, but that it all fall upon God from whom all good things come.
Wednesday, May 6, 2009
Thoughts on Gay Marriage
First of all, I have several gay friends, and even some extended family. I don't hate them. I don't judge them. They are no more perfect or imperfect than any of the rest of us. My comments here are about issues, not about people, and I'm interested in hearing your feedback.
Second, I have what may be a unique view on homosexuality, considering I'm a fairly conservative guy. I do not believe that homosexuality is just a choice. I believe that most gays are genetically predisposed to it in much the same way that a person may be genetically predisposed to any number of things, good or bad. I do not believe that most gays deliberately or consciously choose that lifestyle.
Third, I try to keep my own opinion out of it and lean on what I know to be 100% timelessly true and beneficial -- the Word of God. My opinions are just that -- mine. Your opinions, likewise, are just yours. They're the opinions of two fallible people with limited knowledge. The Word of God, however, is the word of the living and perfect God who created all things and knows all things. So obviously, I'll put more faith in it than in my or your opinion. No offense.
I guess the starting point when looking at gay marriage is looking at homosexuality itself.
First of all, it is a sin. This is not a judgment or a condemnation, nor is it my opinion. This is repeatedly in the Bible. It is a sin. But it is no more of a sin than adultery, pornography or other forms of "sexual immorality" or anything else. Homosexual sin is no worse in God's eyes than heterosexual sin. Homosexual immorality is no more immoral or sinful than heterosexual immorality.
"Don't you know that those who do wrong will have no share in the Kingdom of God? Don't fool yourselves. Those who indulge in sexual sin, who are idol worshipers, adulterers, male prostitutes, homosexuals, thieves, greedy people, drunkards, abusers and swindlers -- none of these will have a share in the Kingdom of God." 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 (are there any of us who don't see ourselves in that passage??)
"Let there be no sexual immorality, impurity or greed among you.... You can be sure that no immoral, impure or greedy person will inherit the Kingdom of Christ and of God.... Don't be fooled by those who try to excuse these sins, for the terrible anger of God comes upon all those who disobey Him." Ephesians 5:3, 5-6
Second, I mentioned that I believe there may be a genetic predisposition toward homosexuality. And I do believe that. But that doesn't make it right in God's eyes. Science has also proven that a person may be genetically predisposed to alcoholism, but that doesn't justify alcoholism. It just makes it harder to avoid. With homosexuality, it makes it more difficult to resist that sin and creates a greater dependence upon God. Or it should, anyway. Same as any difficulty should. Put it this way - do you really believe God would forbid something for which we cannot help and over which we have no control?
"There was a time when some of you (previous verses) were just like that, but now your sins have been washed away, and you have been set apart for God. You have been made right with God because of what the Lord Jesus Christ and the Spirit of our God have done for you." 1 Corinthians 6:11
Third, I don't hate homosexuals. As I mentioned, I have gay coworkers, gay friends, gay cousins and have had gay teammates when I played sports. There are people I like, and those I'm not particularly drawn to -- same as anyone else. Your sexual orientation plays no part in that. It is no reason not to love someone as Christ commanded us to love others. We are not to judge. The Bible is clear on that. That's God's job. We are to love. If we are motivated by a Godly love then we may be called to challenge someone on their actions and sins -- whether they be homosexual or heterosexual -- sin is sin, and may be confronted, but only in a spirit of Godly love and conviction.
So I am opposed to homosexual marriage. Marriage is between a man and a woman. It serves the evolutionary purpose, if you will, to procreate and provide a structure in raising children. It is a Biblical illustration of God's relationship to us, His church. It is ordained by God from the beginning of time, for specific natural purposes and specific spiritual purposes.
"As the Scriptures say, 'A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.' This is a great mystery, but it is an illustration of the way Christ and church are one." Ephesians 5:31-32
In terms of public policy, however, I do think it's important that accommodations be made for civil unions. We may be a Christian nation, but we are not all Christians, nor is our government a theocracy. It does not follow the letter of the Scriptures (though some may argue it should) -- it follows the letter of the law.
It is important for civil unions to be allowed when it comes to medical issues, child care issues, insurance and benefits, and other many legal matters. They are legally important and, I believe, necessary.
Again, speaking in terms of public policy, having some states that permit gay marriage and some that do not creates major problems. What if a couple married in Iowa moves down to Florida? Will the laws of one state force another state to comply, even if the people of that state have said they have no interest? Would Florida be forced to recognize that marriage just as Iowa does, even though Florida does not recognize it? It would create a myriad of policy problems and legal issues. It has also opened up the door, subsequently, to gay divorce and all the issues that stem from that. It creates significant issues both for governments and for businesses, small and large.
Here is the bottom line for me: God says homosexuality is wrong. I believe Him. Marriage should be a valued institution, to be protected and held high. Regrettably, it is not. The devil is actively targeting marriage and the family. He is using heterosexual sex and homosexual sex to do so. He (the devil) is tearing apart families and seeking to redefine and recreate that which God Himself created to bring glory to Him.
Christians, however, should spend more time focusing on what God says about THEIR OWN lives rather than what God says about others. If we put as much effort and energy into being who and what God wanted us to be, as opposed to trying to be God's little minions of judgment and correction, then the world would be vastly different. Families would be different. Children would be different. Relationships would be different. Laws and governments would be different. "Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and He will give you everything you need." Matthew 6:33
"Since you have heard all about Him and have learned the truth that is in Jesus, throw off your old evil nature and your former way of life, which is rotten through and through, full of lust and deception. Instead, there must be spiritual renewal of your thoughts and attitudes. You must display a new nature because you are a new person, created in God's likeness -- righteous, holy and true." Ephesians 4:22-24 This is a passage that all of us should heed.
Second, I have what may be a unique view on homosexuality, considering I'm a fairly conservative guy. I do not believe that homosexuality is just a choice. I believe that most gays are genetically predisposed to it in much the same way that a person may be genetically predisposed to any number of things, good or bad. I do not believe that most gays deliberately or consciously choose that lifestyle.
Third, I try to keep my own opinion out of it and lean on what I know to be 100% timelessly true and beneficial -- the Word of God. My opinions are just that -- mine. Your opinions, likewise, are just yours. They're the opinions of two fallible people with limited knowledge. The Word of God, however, is the word of the living and perfect God who created all things and knows all things. So obviously, I'll put more faith in it than in my or your opinion. No offense.
I guess the starting point when looking at gay marriage is looking at homosexuality itself.
First of all, it is a sin. This is not a judgment or a condemnation, nor is it my opinion. This is repeatedly in the Bible. It is a sin. But it is no more of a sin than adultery, pornography or other forms of "sexual immorality" or anything else. Homosexual sin is no worse in God's eyes than heterosexual sin. Homosexual immorality is no more immoral or sinful than heterosexual immorality.
"Don't you know that those who do wrong will have no share in the Kingdom of God? Don't fool yourselves. Those who indulge in sexual sin, who are idol worshipers, adulterers, male prostitutes, homosexuals, thieves, greedy people, drunkards, abusers and swindlers -- none of these will have a share in the Kingdom of God." 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 (are there any of us who don't see ourselves in that passage??)
"Let there be no sexual immorality, impurity or greed among you.... You can be sure that no immoral, impure or greedy person will inherit the Kingdom of Christ and of God.... Don't be fooled by those who try to excuse these sins, for the terrible anger of God comes upon all those who disobey Him." Ephesians 5:3, 5-6
Second, I mentioned that I believe there may be a genetic predisposition toward homosexuality. And I do believe that. But that doesn't make it right in God's eyes. Science has also proven that a person may be genetically predisposed to alcoholism, but that doesn't justify alcoholism. It just makes it harder to avoid. With homosexuality, it makes it more difficult to resist that sin and creates a greater dependence upon God. Or it should, anyway. Same as any difficulty should. Put it this way - do you really believe God would forbid something for which we cannot help and over which we have no control?
"There was a time when some of you (previous verses) were just like that, but now your sins have been washed away, and you have been set apart for God. You have been made right with God because of what the Lord Jesus Christ and the Spirit of our God have done for you." 1 Corinthians 6:11
Third, I don't hate homosexuals. As I mentioned, I have gay coworkers, gay friends, gay cousins and have had gay teammates when I played sports. There are people I like, and those I'm not particularly drawn to -- same as anyone else. Your sexual orientation plays no part in that. It is no reason not to love someone as Christ commanded us to love others. We are not to judge. The Bible is clear on that. That's God's job. We are to love. If we are motivated by a Godly love then we may be called to challenge someone on their actions and sins -- whether they be homosexual or heterosexual -- sin is sin, and may be confronted, but only in a spirit of Godly love and conviction.
So I am opposed to homosexual marriage. Marriage is between a man and a woman. It serves the evolutionary purpose, if you will, to procreate and provide a structure in raising children. It is a Biblical illustration of God's relationship to us, His church. It is ordained by God from the beginning of time, for specific natural purposes and specific spiritual purposes.
"As the Scriptures say, 'A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.' This is a great mystery, but it is an illustration of the way Christ and church are one." Ephesians 5:31-32
In terms of public policy, however, I do think it's important that accommodations be made for civil unions. We may be a Christian nation, but we are not all Christians, nor is our government a theocracy. It does not follow the letter of the Scriptures (though some may argue it should) -- it follows the letter of the law.
It is important for civil unions to be allowed when it comes to medical issues, child care issues, insurance and benefits, and other many legal matters. They are legally important and, I believe, necessary.
Again, speaking in terms of public policy, having some states that permit gay marriage and some that do not creates major problems. What if a couple married in Iowa moves down to Florida? Will the laws of one state force another state to comply, even if the people of that state have said they have no interest? Would Florida be forced to recognize that marriage just as Iowa does, even though Florida does not recognize it? It would create a myriad of policy problems and legal issues. It has also opened up the door, subsequently, to gay divorce and all the issues that stem from that. It creates significant issues both for governments and for businesses, small and large.
Here is the bottom line for me: God says homosexuality is wrong. I believe Him. Marriage should be a valued institution, to be protected and held high. Regrettably, it is not. The devil is actively targeting marriage and the family. He is using heterosexual sex and homosexual sex to do so. He (the devil) is tearing apart families and seeking to redefine and recreate that which God Himself created to bring glory to Him.
Christians, however, should spend more time focusing on what God says about THEIR OWN lives rather than what God says about others. If we put as much effort and energy into being who and what God wanted us to be, as opposed to trying to be God's little minions of judgment and correction, then the world would be vastly different. Families would be different. Children would be different. Relationships would be different. Laws and governments would be different. "Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and He will give you everything you need." Matthew 6:33
"Since you have heard all about Him and have learned the truth that is in Jesus, throw off your old evil nature and your former way of life, which is rotten through and through, full of lust and deception. Instead, there must be spiritual renewal of your thoughts and attitudes. You must display a new nature because you are a new person, created in God's likeness -- righteous, holy and true." Ephesians 4:22-24 This is a passage that all of us should heed.
Saturday, March 28, 2009
No Way Out
Recently I was thinking about all the obstacles that seem to be stacked up before me – continuing issues with the divorce, job issues, money issues, living arrangement issues, parenting issues, etc. And it really got me down. It almost ruined my whole weekend. It made me feel hemmed in, like there was nowhere I could go and no way out. It's not a good feeling! I sent out an Email to some friends in a Bible study group and a few others to request their prayers for me in this and God put something on my heart that I feel I am responsible to share:
I love the Old Testament. It just seems to be very real people, making very real mistakes, seeing very real works of God, and requiring very real faith. Jesus had not yet come. It was but a promise to them – a prophecy. But not a reality as it is – or should be – to us. I often find myself looking behind the story and trying to get inside the heads of those involved. Not just the main characters, however, but the supporting cast. What were they thinking? How was God working in their hearts and minds? And how was the devil working against God?
I was reminded of the story of the children of Israel, the Israelites, and their escape from captivity in Egypt. God delivered them and had Moses lead them away to what they expected would be freedom. They would get their freedom and their deliverance, but not the way that I’m sure they had expected. Rather, they got their deliverance exactly the way God intended. The story is found in Exodus 13:17 – 14:31.
The story begins with this statement, “When Pharaoh let the people go, God did not lead them on the road through the Philistine country, though that was shorter…. So God led the people around by the desert road toward the Red Sea.” God intentionally took them the harder way. The longer way. But He had a plan and He knew more than the Israelites would ever know. In the middle of those two statements God explains why He did this – “For God said, ‘If they face war, they might change their minds and return to Egypt.’” God knew that the shorter route would lead them into potential war, and that the Israelites, after so many years in captivity, would likely opt for the slavery they knew than the war they had never experienced. In short – God knew them better than they knew themselves, and He knew what He was doing!
As they were marching through the desert, optimistic about their future and hopeful for their destination, they noticed, apparently from a high point in their journey, that the Egyptian army had taken up arms and had begun pursuing them. Their response was not unlike ours when we find unexpected complications in our plans, rather than looking at the big picture of God’s plan. And this is what I like about the Old Testament accounts – you can hear the sarcasm in their complaints. You can hear their self-centeredness rather than God-centeredness. You can hear their victim mentality rather than the mentality of people who serve an Almighty God. “They said to Moses, ‘Was it because there were no graves in Egypt that you brought us to the desert to die? What have you done to us by bringing us out of Egypt? Didn’t we say to you in Egypt, ‘Leave us alone; let us serve the Egyptians’? It would have been better for us to serve the Egyptians than to die in the desert!’”
Moses response was simple – “Do not be afraid. Stand firm and you will see the deliverance the Lord will bring you today. The Egyptians you see today you will never see again. The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still.” I LOVE that verse! But do you think they did what Moses commanded (note, it was a command – not a request)? We don’t know for sure… but I’d be surprised if the majority followed his direction. Note also how definitive and absolute all of the language was. There was no ambiguity, nothing was vague, nothing was uncertain, and everything was definite. Yet still we doubt.
Imagine their situation: They are cresting a mountain range after struggling their way to the top, from which they look down behind them and see the dust clouds raised from the Egyptian horses, chariots and soldiers. They are immediately afraid. They look down before them and see the expanse of the Red Sea. The portion of the Red Sea they saw was the eastern of the two “fingertips” of the Red Sea, between which rests the Sinai Peninsula. The portion they faced measured approximately ten miles across. TEN MILES! The deepest parts of this portion of the Red Sea can be as much as 5,000 FEET deep! What do you think they thought when they looked down upon this extreme and very legitimate obstacle? And when they looked back and saw the might of the Egyptian army in pursuit? Hope? Peace? Confidence? Optimism? Quite the contrary, I would think, despite Moses’ exhortations and commands.
But what happened? I think we all know. God commanded Moses to extend his arms out over the sea. God parted the seas. Not only did he part the seas, He gave them DRY GROUND upon which to walk – no slipping, no sinking in the mud, no dangers of any kind. Safe, dry ground. For ten miles across, and approximately a quarter to a half-mile wide. And the depth? The area the Israelites are believed to have crossed “just happens” (remember, there was no sonar back in that day!) to have been positioned directly between the greatest depths of the entire Red Sea, one measuring 3000 feet deep, the other 5000 feet deep. And the Israelites passed right between them, at the most reasonable point possible.
On either side of them they faced, the Bible says, “a wall of water.” Wow. How must THAT have made them feel? Do you think there were still those skeptics who said “Yeah, the ground is dry now, and we’re ok now, but look at THAT! That could come down any minute!” Do you think we would say that? I know I would – and probably do in my own circumstances.
And as they crossed, and as they ascended the western bank of the sea and looked back, what did they see? The Egyptian army – still in pursuit and closing ever faster. Do you think there were those who thought they passed through the sea only to die on the other side at the hand of the Egyptians? I'm sure there were. But I think we all know the outcome. The Egyptians followed the Israelites down into the Red Sea passage. They traveled over the same dry ground. They looked up at the same walls of water to their north and south, left and right. God let them begin to cross. Do you think the Israelites complained about this? Surely! God let them experience the same miraculous passage. And did the Israelites complain? Again, it is not recorded, but I’d bet on it that they did!
“The Egyptians pursued them, and all Pharaoh’s horses and chariots and horsemen followed them into the sea. During the last watch of the night (at the last minute, perhaps?) the Lord looked down… at the Egyptian army and threw it into confusion. He made the wheels of their chariots come off so that they had difficulty driving. And the Egyptians said ‘Let’s get away from the Israelites! The Lord is fighting for them against Egypt!’” So, however far through the passage they were, the Egyptians stopped and began to turn around, as best as they could, given the confusion God was creating amongst them.
“Moses stretched out his hand over the sea, and at daybreak the sea went back into its place. The Egyptians were fleeing toward it, and the Lord swept them into the sea. The water flowed back and covered the chariots and horsemen – the entire army of Pharaoh that had followed the Israelites into the sea. Not one of these survived.”
Why?? Why did God allow His people to go through this?? To experience this fear? To literally fear for their lives? To question His providence and plan? To suffer the psychological and emotional anguish of their predicament? Easy. God says it in the Scriptures. At the end of the account the author concludes “And when the Israelites saw the great power the Lord displayed against the Egyptians, the people feared the Lord and put their trust in Him and in Moses His servant.” And at the beginning of the account as well the Lord tells Moses that “I will gain glory for myself through Pharaoh and all his army, and the Egyptians will know that I am the Lord.” When the Israelites find themselves hemmed in between the army of Pharaoh and the expanse of the Red Sea, God again tells Moses “I will gain glory through Pharaoh and all his army, through his chariots and his horsemen. The Egyptians will know that I am the Lord when I gain glory through Pharaoh, his chariots, and his horsemen.”
And something that isn’t mentioned in the Scriptures but is there nonetheless – had the children of Israel not been put in that position, had they not responded the way they did, had it not been recorded, and had it not been canonized into the Bible, we would know nothing of it. We would not know the amazing power and faithfulness of God. We would not see that to doubt and fear is both normal and human, though it is also both unnecessary and inappropriate. Bottom line – it is all for His glory. Period. And it should be viewed as our privilege to be a part of it. And when we are a allowed to be a part of it, we need to share it with the world around us. It is our responsibility.
I say this to me, and I say this to you – actually, not me, but God says it – no matter your obstacles, no matter who or what is pursuing you, no matter what fears and doubts you may have (slightly paraphrased):
“Do not be afraid. Stand firm and you will see the deliverance the Lord will bring you today. The fears you experience today you will never see again. The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still.”
Exodus 14:13-14
An incredible link I found, and from which I obtained some of this information is below – I’d highly encourage you to check it out when you have half an hour or so to watch the YouTube. The basics can be viewed in about 5-10 minutes, though.
http://www.arkdiscovery.com/red_sea_crossing.htm
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